Rule that every parent should know.

28th June, 2019
Every day in motherhood is different - there are days when we have time and energy to spend really good and active or creative time with our child. There are also days when things need to get done, we are in a hurry with multiple things, or we are physically there, involved in the entertainment, but our thoughts wonder away with different things on our mind. And that's fine! Remember we are human too and you don't always have to be full of excitement and energy to play with your bundle of joy. Sometimes you need that little break too as you are doing an amazing job every single day - you are raising a little human.
 
Three minutes…
In theory - it's not a lot. This is how much time we devote to brushing our teeth in the morning and evening, that's also the average length of a song played on the radio that we listen to daily. Therefore giving your maximum attention to your child within this time shouldn't be a problem...

Let's get to the point…
What is the "three-minute rule"? Psychologist Nataliya Sirotich explains that this method is about greeting the child, which should last just that long. It is important that this rule applies to every greeting that takes place as if we have not seen our little one in a long time and are very happy and excited to finally be with them. The key is to literally throw everything that you are doing at that moment to the side and be there just for your child. You should crouch down, so that your eyes are in the same line, hold on tight, give plenty of cuddles and kisses, ask what happened when we were not together and listen to everything they have to say. I do this every time my daughter wakes up from a nap or night time sleep. Every single time she disappears upstairs in her room for a longer period, playing with her toys and finally decided to come downstairs or I go up to check on her. Every time she goes to the corner shop with her dad - I make the biggest fuss to finally see her beautiful face again, and boy don't she love it.
  
Is that it?
Yes! This time is crucial for your relationship and bond with your child. I've seen so many parents lack the knowledge of the importance of dedicating all your attention to their children when picking them up from school, nursery or a relative. Dropping in, in a rush, trying to make it as fast as possible, ensuring you don't forget anything, and make it home quick for dinner - but have you ever stopped and thought how happy your child is to see you after a long day at nursery, how much they were probably missing you, how many times you've crossed their little mind? Wanting to tell you all about their day, show you what they've learned today, moan about a friend or a teacher. I often see parents engaged in a phone conversation, whilst communicating with their child using their eyes and body language - 'Come on, chop chop, move, quickly grab all your staff...' - blinking and nodding their heads.
  
Three minutes…
Do not ever miss this time. Never skip a second. The world can wait. Make every time you greet or welcome your child, a time they will feel that they are the most important thing in the world, because they are, isn't that true? Isn't this little person in front of you the greatest gift and strongest love of our life?